3 Reasons why stress may be good for you.

It was midnight, my financial books were on the table and I realized I would not have enough for rent. I began to sweat and my heart began to race hitting the walls of the pit of my stomach.

Rewind…

I woke up and with a groggy smile turned over to hug my boyfriend just to remember that we had broken up days ago. Reality hit me like an anvil from Looney Toons CRASH BOOM to the heart.

I am now a starfish in this foreign bed.

I cried and pulled the sheets over.

I want to go back to bed, where I don’t have to live in this reality.

Rewind…

Welcome to my army…all 23 soldiers of them are located on my face (and yes I actually counted them). I swear that when people look at me, they must be looking at the newest soldier (he’s taken the reign of number 24).

They’re not looking at me or taking me seriously.

BA-BOOM BA-BOOM.

Number 24 has a heartbeat. I feel like a freak, undesirable and exhausted from spending money on creams, supplements and trying every eating regime out there.

Sounds stressful? Sure is and I bet you have a list of your own. But here are three reasons why stress could actually be good for you.

1.    We often look for answers when something feels broken.

It’s true, I never see patients who want to pay for prevention, but rather only do so when things are broken. Here’s my broken vase, I can’t find the pieces, you ought to have better sticky glue or tape. Work your magic Melissa, tell me what to do.

Granted there’s the initial lick your wounds phase, but at some point, you get up and start really looking for answers. That’s motivation. That’s mojo. There’s good stuff there.

2.    It may promote reinvention.

How often after you’ve gone through a horrible breakup and then dusted yourself off and began to polish the new you? The new you that is going back to the gym, planning a vacation to some far off place, taking up the guitar and spending more time with friends. Stress can propel reinvention that suddenly breathes new hope.

3.    To know suffering is to know pleasure.

When it hurts so bad you’re glutton for punishment.  Everything could be taken away from you and you might be starving your soul as a reflection of that. The thing is, you WILL pull out. It’s inevitable; we just don’t see it at the time. It’s basic yin/yang theory. If we sway into the yang (the dark side), then the pendulum will inevitable swing back (or transform) into yin (the light side). But if everything were so great all the time, we’d have no concept of gratitude. Only when we feel suffering can we truly appreciate the joys of true happiness.

Stress is a major issue, especially in the Western world. It’s a huge focus in my private practice and the reason why I came up with the Stress Detox happening at the end of March (dates coming soon).  And the price tag? Pay-what-you-want…no stress. Want more? Sign up and stay tuned for when dates and details get released. We will go through a 14-day stress detox with three of my experts and a little ebook I’m throwing in. It’s major mojo for whatever you can pay.

In the meantime, know you’ll find answers: Money is honestly just energy…it comes and it goes (trust me). The zits on your face? It makes you dig deeper, which makes you more soulful than most people on the planet. And the lonely bed? Stretch out, because being a star has the potential to feel pretty damn good.