We had a huge problem on our hands that could have cost the agency $14,000 to fix and that wasn’t even on the high end. I was at the brunt of this catastrophe and as a newbie Account Exec my nerves were in shambles and my stress levels were through the roof. My heart sank as I saw the VP walk towards my desk with thunder in every step. As he stood there yelling at me for an entire cube farm to hear, I sat still with shaky eyeballs and clenched teeth. I agreed and promised him that I would make this go away. Once he had left, I had all eyes on me completely aghast. So I got up with my head up high, straightened my skirt and made my way to the elevator.
Don’t cry Melissa. Whatever you do, DON’T CRY.
I ushered my way into an empty elevator and finally released the floodgates.
As women, we will fight to stay on top of things and be strong because God forbid we show our weakness. This can catapult our stress levels to breathe new heights as many of us try to be Super Woman. So this begs the question:
How can we as women, manage our stress levels in the face of adversity?
Please understand that I’m not saying that men do not face adversities of their own, because they do. But I wanted to write this blog post because today is International Day of the Girl. I felt it was important to highlight what we can do as women to empower ourselves and de-stress.
Be Strong, Not Hard
This was a huge lesson for me in my past life as an Ad Exec. I was a corporate pitbull and I became hard and jaded. I thought it was the only way as a woman to survive – but I was wrong. As years passed, I learned that I needed to stop avoiding myself and running on autopilot. So what did I do? I adopted meditation. Now before you roll your eyes, understand this: meditation is crucial to lowering stress levels. It’s not meant to be easy, but as my man Deepak Chopra will tell you, “you can’t have the on without the off.” After years of practice, my concentration has improved and my stress levels, substantially lowered. Meditation has opened me up to love and continually makes me stronger…not harder.
I used to scoff at restorative yoga. I felt that I always needed kick-me-in-the-ass workouts to feel strong. Not the case. Sometimes, we need to balance out all of our daily yang-type activities with a little yin-type activities. These are the classes that I have broken down into tears and where I have rebuilt myself.
I’m not here to tell you that I never eat crap – because sometimes I do. However, I will no longer lean on sugar as my crutch when I’m stressed. Sugar is 99% pure and can be classified as a drug! I used to think granola bars were healthy, but they’re loaded with sugar and will catapult your stress and weaken your digestive system (the core of your health). During my pay-what-you-can Stress Detox launching in November, I have developed incredible recipes that will actually change your taste buds so that you no longer crave the bad shit. But I will add in some treats like my Chocolate Bombs that you can enjoy 25% of the time that you won’t feel guilty about.
Chocolate Cherry Bomb
2 cups ground almond flour
½ cup coconut flour
½ cup coconut oil
¼ cup unpasteurized honey
½ tsp baking soda
1/8 tsp sea salt
Frozen cherries (to place in the centre)
Chunks of 85% chocolate (to place in the centre)
Preheat oven to 350F.
Place all ingredients into a bowl except cherries and chocolate. Combine well.
In your hand place a small amount of dough (roughly 1 tbsp). Roll it into a ball, then flatten it and make a thumb print in the middle. Add in a cherry, followed by a chunk of chocolate. Then place another tablespoon of dough on top of what you have in your hand and roll into a small ball (or what I call a bomb).
Place onto a parchment-lined baking tray and repeat until finished. Place in the oven for 25 minutes.
Makes 6 bombs.
Sometimes when we have ourselves one big pity party, the way to gain strength is to get a dose of perspective. I do this by reading stories of women around the world who are less fortunate and I take action on how I can help them. By giving love, support and empowering others – even if it’s in a small way, can make a world of difference. So if you don’t want to donate to a cause, you can certainly empower a girl, friend or woman who needs it.
So in the meantime, I’m hosting another webinar this month on Stress & Letting Go – and the best part? It’s free! You’ll get practical advice on how you can lower your stress levels with nutrition, supplements, lifestyle and acupressure. It’s happening on October 23 at 7:30pmEST.
This is just a preview of what’s to come for my pay-what-you-can Stress Detox launching in November that’s going to seriously kick ass.
In the meantime, I know that you likely have a shit ton on your plate and you deserve to know how to face it head on with pure love. Lower that stress levels and become stronger and more empowered.
Mom? Busy corporate woman? Running to-do list? Entrepreneur? Stressed out University student? Super Woman? Hell yes…super you.