Lately, I find myself grappling with feeling disconnected and even loneliness especially given that my career is mainly online which can be a very solidary profession. And that feeling of loneliness magnifies as I grab my phone through procrastination to idly scroll through Facebook, Instagram and Twitter for something I can’t name. And maybe I’m not alone because I see depression growing in size as new patients come to see in practice. So the question becomes:
What can we do to combat loneliness & depression in a digital era?
It is said that most humans are incapable of intimately knowing more than 150 people at a time, so where does this leave us with social media? We randomly accept friend requests, subconsciously opting for quantity versus quality of friends as though we were collecting stamps. And we start to expect more from new media rather than from each other. We begin to compare ourselves with other people that we don’t even speak to. I find people doing this with me when they compare their lives to my highlight reel. And I fear that people might become disappointed when they thought I’d be the extroverted character that I am in my videos rather than the introvert I really am in person. With all the edits and filters, we have the capacity through social media to filter out reality.
As a result, we begin to feel inadequate, lonely and disconnected through a medium that’s supposed to be connecting us.
So as an online entrepreneur and a practitioner, I feel like I have a social responsibility in all this. You see, from a physiological aspect, our cells actually vibrate differently with the electronic devices that have become our fifth limb. So in November, when I plan to launch a revamped version of my pay-what-you-can Stress Detox, I will be including what you can do to shift things around. These won’t just be tips, there will be experts, and tactical things you can do right away to start grounding and feeling whole again.
As for myself as an online entrepreneur, I’ve recently learned that I need to set boundaries. No Skype calls passed 7pm, no social media passed 10pm, reading an actual book versus a digital book and no work on Saturdays. People can wait and they’ll just have to understand. I’m human too after all.
So in the meantime, I thought I’d include a recipe that I love and that I made as I blasted some music, danced around and reconnected to myself through my food.
Lemon & Herb Roasted Chicken
1 whole organic chicken
1 organic lemon
1/3 cup organic low sodium chicken broth
½ red onion quartered
1 turnip roughly chopped
2 large carrots chopped in large chunks
1 package of the following fresh herbs: thyme, rosemary, chives & oregano
8 cloves garlic
2 tbsp ghee
Sea salt & cracked pepper
Preheat oven to 450F.
Coat chicken with ghee massaging it everywhere. Then liberally cover with sea salt and cracked pepper – including the cavity. Make slits in the chicken and stuff four cloves of garlic and throw the other cloves in the cavity of the chicken.
Take a small handful of herbs and stuff in the cavity along with a lemon that’s been punctured multiple times with a fork.
Take another small handful of herbs, chop and sprinkle on top of chicken (breast side up always).
Arrange root vegetables around chicken in a pan and pour in chicken broth.
Put chicken in the oven at 450 for 10mins and then reduce heat to 325 and let cook uncovered (breast side up) for 1.5hours, basting it every so often to ensure it’s nice and crispy.
Once you remove the chicken, take out the lemon from the cavity with a set of tongs and squeeze the lemon on the chicken to finish it off.
This technique of roasting a chicken on low for longer will according to Chinese Nutrition Therapy help to draw in the energy into our food and into us. So stay away from too much raw which has an expansive quality and rather begin to slow cook to really root and ground yourself during these cooler months.
In the meantime, if you feel disconnected, lonely or inadequate, you’re not alone. We shouldn’t be trying to edit our every move in fear that we could very well make a mistake that we should be entitled to make because we’re human. We should applaud and celebrate our imperfections rather beat ourselves up because we don’t measure up to a filter of another.
So now I want to hear from you…do you think social media has been contributing to your mental health?
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