Sitting in the middle of my living room on my Ikea kitchen chair with my bowl of noodles, I took a scan of the room...it was practically empty. All that remained was my floor-to-ceiling bookshelf and well, me in the centre. I had just kicked out my boyfriend back then and couldn’t stop thinking, “how the hell am I going to do this alone?” I would finish my noodles, pull up my laptop and begin writing my blog for Sexy Food Therapy.
It was 1:45am and a girl was waving me down at the end of the bar. I would drop the scribblings of ideas that I began hours earlier on the chit paper and usher over. I’d take her order, slide over a pint of Coors Light and admit that yes, I was the girl behind Sexy Food Therapy.
While this isn’t my present, it isn’t exactly a far distant past and truthfully, for years in this business…
I felt like a fraud.
The stress alone almost killed me. It made me want to throw in the towel, give up and drink more than the healthy four drinks per week average.
So how did I deal with the stress? I ate of course.
Sexy Fudge Bars
*Recipe adapted from Chocolate Covered Katie
1 cup pitted dates
1/2 cup almonds, unsalted
1/4 cup pecans, unsalted
1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder
2 ripe bananas
6 tbsp hazelnut butter
1/4 cup more unsweetened cocoa powder
1 tsp cinnamon
Pinch of sea salt
Put dates in a bowl with warm water, allow dates to soak for 30 minutes, then drain. Mix together dates, almonds, pecans, and 1/4 cup cocoa powder, cinnamon in a Vitamix until well blended. Spread mixture in a 9×5 baking pan until evenly distributed, and press down gently with a spoon. Mix together bananas, hazelnut butter, and other 1/4 cup cocoa powder in the food processor until well blended. Spread mixture over bottom layer until evenly distributed. Place in freezer for an hour. Cut into 16 squares.
The power of real cacao is uncanny. Given that it’s apparently the next best thing to sex, then it almost becomes the go-to food (especially when you’re single). Fuelling the heart meridian to nourish our souls and anxiety is sometimes exactly what you need.
You see there are a bunch of stress-relieving foods and granted, sometimes, they get paired with a little more wine than intended, but hey, balance right? In my upcoming pay-what-you-can Stress Detox launching on November 12, I’ll be providing you with a 14-day Stress Detox plan that will give you supplement, lifestyle and nutrition advice, a meal plan and a plethora of recipes like the one above. The plan will be actionable and hold you accountable through a Facebook page that will motivate and inspire you. Plus my daily mantras will be accessible for 14 days as screensavers and wallpapers for your SmartPhone. Not to mention, I’m bringing in three of my team of experts talking about how to reset and restore through areas of homeopathy, body image, organization and of course Nutrition & Chinese Medicine (me!). Sweet, right?
I know that sometimes we may look at people within our industry and feel envious because maybe they came from money or because their lives seems perfect. We look at ourselves and think we don’t measure up or that we’re a fraud for some reason or another. However I will tell you this: I am grateful for living in the illusion that I was a fraud. You see the world isn’t filled with perfection, bullshit hierarchies and holier-than-thou people. Those who succeed are those who learn how to effectively deal with their stress. We’re all just the same whether we haven’t found out how to master our own health yet as a practitioner or whether we’re financially slinging smoothies or pints of Coors Light. In fact, it's what makes us human.
So if you're tired of being so stressed out and feeling the impacts of it around your waist or in restless nights and more, then you've got zero excuse to continue on that path, especially when the pay-what-you-can Stress Detox is all for a price you can afford. So what's YOUR excuse?