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I was being chased.  Jumping over cars and rolling to the ground to end up in a sexy cat pose, I pulled out my handgun from my garter belt and defended myself against the enemy.  My hair?  Still perfect. Makeup? Not a smudge.  I was a token bad ass in my matrix looking getup and I was dreaming.  Literally, this was my dream several nights ago. Now I’ve heard countless times that some men really love bad girls, which may explain the Brangelina phenomenon.  But I have to wonder, is this what men really want?

Somehow, I’d like to think (or at least dream) that I too am a bad ass.  My crass-talking, gypsy living, adventure seeking ways might just add a sprinkling of bad ass.  And although I have an angel (Barry White) and a devil (Sophia Loren) on my shoulders, I generally think Sophia Loren’s advice (the Italian Marilyn Monroe) seems like a little more fun. Was this what caught The Gentleman hook line and sinker?

I couldn’t stop thinking about it and more importantly I was hungry. Every bad ass needs bad ass veggies.

BAD ASS GRILLED VEGGIES
Mixed veggies and fruit (button mushrooms, zucchini, red onion and pineapple)
4 cloves minced garlic
2 tbsp olive oil
Italian seasoning
Sea salt & cracked pepper
1/2 grapefruit

Chop up veggies and fruit into chunks (except for zucchini which should be in thicker slices) and place in a bowl and cover with the rest of the ingredients.  Toss until well combined.  Lay out a sheet of sheet of aluminum foil on a hot grill and pour out veggies.  Grill on medium and cover, turning over until reasonably grilled on both sides. Top over salads, squeeze a little grapefruit juice and partner up with chunks of chicken or grilled salmon. Enjoy!

Many men would like to think that they’re king of the grill and while The Gentleman does a fine job at cooking up some mean steaks, I have to say, I certainly don’t shy away from it and I don’t suggest you should either. Why be stuck indoors making the rest of the sides while your man chugs away at beers and chuckles with the boys?  There’s room for us too I say!  And what I love about grilling is it pleases everyone’s palate and reduces the amount of fat and keeps it light.  In Chinese Medicine methods of cooking during the season is important and during the summer, we want to keep it fast and light. No frying, boiling or baking for long periods. Instead fast sauteing and grilling are better alternatives.  Not to mention, you cannot be a bad ass without bad ass sexy food.

Now I believe that we all have a little sexy devil inside. So how do we bring that side of out? Simply follow the two pillars of bad ass:

Pillar #1: Every bad ass need sexy fuel

It’s simple. Whole, unprocessed food that can be found in produce, the nuts or whole grains in bulk and the meat or fish counter. A true bad ass doesn’t have to claim their status like packaged cereals, boasting of its whole grain goodness.  Sexy bad ass food keeps its cool and doesn’t need to boast.  It’s not sugary white and doesn’t contain any refined horror.  Instead, this living beast makes us feel sexy and shapes our minds and bodies on a whole new level.  Because there truly is nothing sexier than a woman who takes charge of her own health.  Simply put, eat sexy, be sexy.

Pillar #2: Bad ass unleased!

It’s been years with the partner and your sex life is getting old. Having “headaches”, the lights turned off and the missionary position are becoming the norm and something needs to be done fast.  Unleashing your super bad ass powers can only be done after Pillar #1 has been adhered to. You cannot be a true bad ass without bad ass fuel.  Now you can take it to the next level and try a position you’ve never done. Turn on your Sophia Loren alter ego, take charge and surprise him.  Outside the bedroom, do something that you’ve never done before.  Even if it’s running barefoot in the rain up the street and back with your partner laughing like children. Unleashing the bad ass means remembering all the things you forgot when you became an adult and had to be “responsible”.  You’ll both be happier for it and most importantly, this take charge approach will leave you feeling empowered.

A major point that should be mentioned is balance. Balancing eating habits and balancing your inner bad ass.  Because while men might initially like a little sassy fun, the key to longevity is through balance.  We need a little yin to balance out that bad ass yang.  Because men do appreciate softness at times and the reciprocation of taking care of one another.  It’s what partnership is about.  So while it’s fun to listen to that little devil, Sophia Loren, sometimes a little smooth, angel lovin’ Barry White can do wonders – even behind closed doors.