Day 5 of my No-Date Detox and I’m holding up just fine. I’ve spent time with friends during a birthday dinner and then an industry party on Saturday which to its best efforts turned out to be more like a bad Italian wedding. There amongst a group of health industry people, I’d see the odd Mr. Potential. With my best attempt, I would resist making eye contact as he’d walk over, smile and begin chatting with me. Then there it was…the ring. Later, when I saw another guy, my eyes went straight to his left hand and there it was again…another ring. Another guy…ring. Then another…ring.
Ringity ring, ring, RING!
Save me, I do believe I’ve entered the Lord of the Rings.
God, I miss the simple days of collecting fuzzy stickers and marbles…
Granted, I’m not looking. After all, I’m still on a No Date Detox. But being trapped in the Lord of the Rings, I had to question, are all the good ones taken?
Then there was the bad…
Looking back on this year I’ve been a Mo-Mo Magnet…a magnet for bad men. Detoxing right now is my way of filtering out the shit in my life. I’ve had to analyze how I go about making the changes in myself so that I can stop what the world keeps giving me. It’s trying to tell me something and trust me, I’m all ears.
Before my detox I was asked out on a date by a Latino who was tall and handsome, but a charmer who laid it on thick. Going against my best judgement, I gave him my number. So when I got asked out on a date days later, I hesitantly said yes, but days later renegged. I just wasn’t ready. The other night just before I turned in, I received yet another text from him asking if he could pick me up so that we could hang out at his place. Squinting my tired eyes, I looked at the time…1:19am.
Ain’t nothin’ to talk about at that time my friend.
What ever happened to 7 o’clock dinner and maybe a movie? Ignoring his text, I fell fast asleep and woke up to start a completely new day.
And it all begins with a good breakfast.
SEXY SQUASH MUESLI
1 small organic butternut squash
1 handful of walnuts, pecans and pumpkin seeds
1 handful of cranberries
1 handful of cacao nibs
1/2 cup coconut milk
2 tbsp maple syrup
1/2 tsp cinnamon
Pinch sea salt
Peel and cube squash and steam for 15 minutes or until tender.
Place in a bowl and add in nuts, cranberries, cacao nibs and spices. Fold mixture careful and combine well. Add in protein powder.
Separately warm coconut milk and add in a little water to thin out a touch. Remove from heat.
Spoon into a small bowl the squash mixture for one serving and add in coconut milk and top with maple syrup and pinch of sea salt. Enjoy.
Lately the mornings have been tough being cold and damp. This breakfast is perfect since butternut squash is warming. It’s medicinal to the digestive system and improves circulation at the same time. And lately, I’ve been a bit worried about life and given that our digestive system is our second brain, mine has been a little impaired lately. So this warming orangey vegetable of love is just the thing my tummy needs.
As for what I need…
Enter the good…
My No-Date Detox has given me good insight to what I need in my life and my relationships with men. Overall I deserve more than I give myself credit for…I think we all do. Sometimes loneliness and insecurities get the best of all of us. It’s just a matter of not settling and really trusting that our passion and authenticity with ourselves will drive us to what we need. But as for the Lord of the Rings…are all the good ones really taken? Approaching single women at parties, I’m tempted to ask their wives that very question. So when it comes down to it, the good is actually in ourselves and sometimes, it just takes a little perspective
, good friends
, and a mo-mo to realize that we deserve better.
And who can forget Italy? Only six days away until the true soul searching begins…