The pheromone of personal fulfillment.
For many of us breakups are one of the hardest things to overcome which is the reason why I try to keep as busy as humanly possible: Morning meditations, diving into writing projects, transforming my post-breakup, minimalist, “because he had most of the furniture”-style apartment into a warm space to be in and pulling out stoves and fridges to clean and start anew. Yes, I keep myself quite busy thank you. So as I look back at myself during my past relationship and see that I lost that fine balance of self and commitment, I have to wonder, how do I now become the source that emits the pheromone of personal fulfillment?
I have written about the subject before when I spoke about the relationship between sexual and creative energy. They both come from deep within our sacral chakra (3 fingers below your navel) and rarely can you have them proliferate at the same time. It may be the reason why hockey players won’t shag before the big game, why artists abstain from sex while preparing for a large exhibition and why many of us find that during a relationship our creative energies…slip. This may explain why when we’re single and temporarily celibate that we begin to flirt with our creativity again giving it a little pat on the bum. Creativity, this sexy substance that lies within all of us to a degree is a catalyst towards personal fulfillment and one major way to avoid having a fly-by-night fling-fest with it and keeping it in the sac is simple…food.
½ cup wild rice (soaked overnight)
1 cup water
½ can coconut milk
1 tbsp raw cacao powder
1-2 tbsp maple syrup
1 tbsp chia seeds or ground flax
Topping: berries, walnuts, coconut flakes
Pinch of sea salt
Drain and cook wild rice in water on high. Cover and simmer on low for 10-15 minutes. Remove from heat and pour in coconut milk, cacao powder, maple syrup and chia/flax. Mix well and pour into a bowl and add toppings.
I know this recipe may stretch some boundaries – rice and chocolate for breakfast? Damn straight. Wild rice specifically strengthens the kidneys which according to Chinese Medicine is receptive during the winter. It’s a time for grounding, hibernation and internalizing who we are and what we want to become – and food can certainly be used as the facilitator.
Whether we are alone by chance, choice or circumstance, there is bright side as we are given the opportunity to create wild passionate art (in whatever form that may be) versus wild passionate love with someone else. And while this seems like a bad trade off, understand this: an individual who manifests their creativity and develops their pheromone of personal fulfillment is a confident person who’s got their shit so together that they exude an energy that everyone wants to be around.
Now what could possibly be any sexier?