What he does for a living: does it really matter?

As a single woman in your 30’s you will likely be surrounded by people getting shacked up and friends having babies. And while I’d love to get hitched one day, I’ve enjoyed the thrills of casual, non-committal dating this summer:

I’ve met the marketer: smart, successful, built but a

complete ex-talker.

The coffee man: successful, sexy, an entrepreneur but

completely full of himself.

The fine artist: talented, passionate, sexy but a dog that

would rather hump a forest rather than a tree.

The bartender: open-minded, passionate, fit, talks a lot,

world-traveller, thoughtful, down-to-earth, yet

slightly complacent.

That’s when something surprised me…

I found myself clicking with the non-entrepreneurial, non-A-type bartender. I began to push back on the idea. Wasn’t I supposed to find someone who was as ambitious as me? Who had the same drive, owned his own place rather than living in a bachelor? What was I supposed to do when I live in a city where, “What does he do for a living?” is inevitably the first question people ask?

But somehow I was drawn in. I don’t know if its that he’s a remarkably great spoon in the morning, that he surprises me with a food and wine picnic in the park or that he’s made the bed and washed the dishes every time he’s crashed here. Not to mention, the man has an incredible heart.

As I let go of fear and judgment and pushed passed my ego, I opened my heart. This openness flooded me with creativity and joy. Creativity if you’ve heard me say before is an integral aspect of life because it enriches us and believe it or not we all have it. Sometimes, it’s just energetically stuck. In practice I’ll use acupuncture to help move that stuck energy and suggest creative ways for you to fall in love with your food so you can feel sexy from the inside out.  All of this leads to clearer thinking, plus a willingness and openness to receive.

So here’s what did I do with my creativity? I decided to put my creativity to the test and add in vegetables to pancakes. Could it actually be good? Damn straight it can.

Zucchini Gluten-Free Vegan Pancakes

1 cup brown rice flour
½ cup almond flour
½ cup tapioca flour
½ tsp baking powder
1 tsp sea salt
½ tsp cinnamon
½ cup grated zucchini
2 tbsp ground chia mixed with ½ cup water
1 tsp vanilla
1 cup unsweetened almond milk
2 tbsp maple syrup

Combine brown rice flour, almond flour, tapioca flour, baking powder, sea salt, and cinnamon in a large bowl.  Stir in grated zucchini.  Mix ground chia and water in a smaller bowl and let sit for 2 minutes.  Add vanilla, almond milk, and maple syrup.  Mix well.  Add wet ingredients to dry ingredients and stir until combined.

Drop by ¼ cup measurements into a preheated pan. Let the top bubble and then flip.

This is an excellent breakfast if you’re looking to get your veggies in the morning or to hide them from their kids. I top it with hazelnut butter and a bit of fruit and I’m off to the races.

In the meantime, as for my love life…

Sharing common values is important, but he doesn’t have to have the same dreams as I do. If I dated me, I’d probably kill the determined, slightly neurotic me. Not to mention, we’d likely bump into each other changing in the telephone booth. And in the meantime, if we really care what others think, it just might be more of reflection of our egos. I say ditch it and let a sense of openness, joy and creativity wash in.